If you are a man or woman hoping to catch the eye of the single, and now bisexual, Maren Morris, buckle up because she just revealed what she is looking for in her next relationship.
Since divorcing the father of her child and husband of five years, Maren Morris has spent a lot of time discovering herself. Some might say that her journey of self-discovery started when she announced she was leaving country music. While she later retracted that statement of fully leaving the genre, she filed for divorce with Ryan Hurd shortly after.
The two have now finalized the split, and in June, Morris came out as bisexual in a Pride Month post. While she just released a single called “I Hope I Never Fall In Love,” Morris opened up to PEOPLE Magazine, sharing what she is looking for as she re-enters the dating field.
However, the criteria she has for her next partner is cutthroat… to say the least.
“I think pouring myself into another person is probably not a healthy way of going about things. I think it shifts the expectations and power and entitlement a lot. I just have to put 100 percent into myself, and you truly have to be a spectacularly impressive individual to add something to my life because — and I don’t mean to sound full of myself — but the life that I’ve built, I am really, really happy with.”
To be in a healthy relationship, one must be confident and secure in oneself, and jumping from one relationship to another can lead to more damage if you don’t take time to work on yourself first. However, the statement about putting 100% into herself seems like the statement of someone not looking for any type of partnership. In fact, it’s entirely antithetical to the essence of what a relationship is. On the days you’re down, your partner is there to pick you up and vice versa, and when they don’t have 100% to give, you can step up and pick up the slack. It’s a give and take, especially with children involved in the relationship; it’s not just about you anymore.
Morris continues noting that she loves surrounding herself with her friends, family, and son while in her safe space, her home.
“Those are all things that matter to me, and those are self-made. I only will allow someone to come into my life if they amplify any of it. They can’t be a net negative. They can’t drain my resources, and I mean that in every sense of the word. Financially, emotionally, spiritually. You truly have to have your sh*t together to be any part of my life at this point.”
That last statement feels bold, given she went back and forth on where her genre of music would lie, calling country music “toxic” but then saying she’s not exiting the genre… Not here to point fingers, but does anyone really have their sh*t together? Even when I think I am starting to figure it out, life throws me a curveball that knocks me down a rung or two.
Morris says that she is trying to meet someone and connect through conversation, which she admits is hard.
“I don’t hide any part of myself. I feel like I can’t really do that because I’m a public figure, semi-public, so everything’s on the table, but I also have to protect my heart.”
She isn’t willing to open herself up unless she feels it’s worth it. But isn’t that the fun part of falling in love? The struggle of knowing that opening yourself up to someone can lead to hurt but trusting that they will care for your heart and your feelings.
Dating when you have a child in the picture will always have you a little more guarded because more is at stake if it does not work out. But for a relationship to work successfully, it must be a true partnership. As a girl who once accepted the bare minimum, I think girls always want to be swooned and treated well, but even these statements feel like she might be waiting for her Prince or Princess Charming for a while.
Good luck to her, I guess… I hope she finds happiness. To anyone who thinks they are a “spectacularly impressive individual” go ahead and shoot your shot.
While you’re here, you might as well fire up her new EP’s anti-love anthem, “I Hope I Never Fall In Love Again,” which sounds like it’s exactly where you’ll end up with those unrealistic relationship demands.
