“In making this video, I really wanted to show what being in a relationship with an abusive narcissist looks like behind closed doors. I think that’s what I want people to take away from this.
If this is happening to you, leave. I don’t care what they are to you, I don’t care if you’ll ‘have nothing’ if you leave them. (I know that’s probably what they told you, but they’re lying.)
If someone around you belittles you, disrespects you, abuses you physically or verbally, you are much better off with nothing than being with them.”
She added that the stereotypical “dysfunctional” relationships you see on TV aren’t necessarily accurate to what they are in real life, and no matter how much money someone has or what kind of house they live in, it can be a living hell behind closed doors:
“Oftentimes, in movies we see what a dysfunctional relationship looks like, what an abuser looks like; typically, a gruff looking drunkard, a jobless ‘loser’ living in a trailer. Something very stereotypical.
But in my experience, it looks a lot different. To me, it looks like the prettiest, wealthiest homes with the dinner table set to perfection, a homemade pie, crystal glasses and refined whiskey. The husband just got home from work, still wearing his suit.
In public, he looks distinguished, a well-respected man. Behind closed doors, he is a monster feeding off a power that he holds over her. That is what a ‘loser’ looks like to me.”
Good for Kaitlin for pouring her heart out in this song, and do yourself a favor and check out the new video:
