“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” – Timothy Keller
One of the most impactful things my mom has ever said to me is, “It only takes one.” She’s said it my entire life, but not until recently did I really start to grasp what she meant. As I’ve grown and had different life experiences, I’ve been able to apply these words in different ways especially when it comes to relationships.
As a girl, it’s easy to get caught up in your own thoughts. We tend to overthink every little thing, and often times that leads us to disappointment. We take rejection from a guy as not being worthy or good enough. We compare our love life to others, and often times it leaves us wondering why?
Why doesn’t he like me? Why haven’t I had a boyfriend? What does she have that I don’t? What did I do wrong? Why me? The questions go on and on and cause complete and utter chaos in our mind.
Take a step back and remember, it only takes one.
You didn’t need the last guy to like you and you don’t need this new guy to like you because you have one guy that’s coming who will love you.
You shouldn’t settle for shallow love just because you’re afraid to be alone. You should find comfort knowing that one day, one guy is going to come into your life who won’t be afraid to know and love you deeply. The good, the bad, the ugly.
The one guy for you is worth waiting for and I promise he’s coming.
Until then, don’t settle for multiple shallow relationships just to have a relationship and/or don’t sulk in self-pity wondering why you’re still single. Instead, focus on loving yourself first. When heartbreak or rejection sneaks its way in, just remember everything happens for a reason and it really does only take one.